God wants to be involved in all areas of our life. But sometimes we tend to give him everything, except our love life. What to do when you clearly hear God telling you to end a relationship?
OBEY!
The first thing to do is to comply! Because, often times, we are so attached and in love with the person that we do not want / cannot leave them. Obedience is better than sacrifice. The more time you take to leave this person, the more you are moving away from your future spouse. Not only are you wasting your time, but you are also wasting the time of your future husband and the partner of your future ex. As long as this relationship is not over, you are delaying your marriage and your future ex’s. God cannot force you, but if you feel that he is constantly ordering you to break up, it is best to listen.
By the time our relationship ended, I really believed I was with someone else’s future husband, which made me decide to break up.
PRAY TO BREAK SOUL TIES
1 Corinthians 6: 15-17
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit
It’s interesting to note that the Bible uses the verb to unit, which confirms that sexual intimacy creates bonds.
Soul ties are most often developed through sexual intercourse. These are spiritual bonds that tie two people together. When you are intimate with someone, it is not only a physical act, there is also a spiritual transfer. It’s like gluing two pieces of paper together and peeling them off: scraps of paper will remain on the respective sheets. We commonly say « I have him/her under my skin ». To get rid of it, we must pray aggressively and regularly.
Example of prayer: « I detach myself from all soul ties created spiritually, sexually and emotionally with X. I believe and declare myself free from all ties in the name of Jesus Christ »
CUT OFF CONTACT DRASTICALLY
Personally, I don’t think you can or should be just friends with your exes. Of course, we’re not enemies, but keeping regular contact with an ex is an open door to unnecessary temptations.
It’s best to erase his phone number, unfollow him on social media and if necessary … to block him. It sounds strict but the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. It is better for you to admit that you are weak before God to strengthen you, than to believe that you can do it without Him.
Genesis 19:24-26
24 Then the Lord rained down burning sulfur on Sodom and Gomorrah—from the Lord out of the heavens. 25 Thus he overthrew those cities and the entire plain, destroying all those living in the cities—and also the vegetation in the land. 26 But Lot’s wife looked back, and she became a pillar of salt.
Don’t think about your ex, what your future might have been like, don’t stalk him on social media, don’t seek his attention by changing your photos… close the door once and for all.
God was destroying the city, saving their life and bringing them somewhere but she didn’t understand that it was out of love and that the best was to come. Lot’s wife turned around out of nostalgia and regret and turned into a pillar of salt.
BELIEVE THE BEST IS TO COME!
Job 8: 7
Your beginnings will seem humble, so prosperous will your future be.
Psalm 34:18
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Psalm 147: 3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
1 Samuel 2:30
But now the Lord declares: ‘Far be it from me! Those who honor me I will honor, but those who despise me will be disdained.
Often times we try to understand why God does not approve of the relationship in order to be able to obey, but sometimes God gives the recommendation without giving the explanation because he simply wants you to…have faith! You have to trust Him without knowing the detailed plan behind his instruction. Behind God’s « no » hides his protection. Maybe you were compatible in the short and medium term, but not for eternity.
For my part, I was coming out of a relationship where I got cheated on so I just wanted to make all the guys pay by mistreating them. When I met my ex, he healed me, he gave me back trust in men and I am convinced that it was God who was acting through him.
Likewise, maybe your ex was there for a reason and … a season. Sometimes, God will bring people in your life but temporarily.
It is definitely a leap of faith that God is asking you to take: leaving somebody you love to be single again and follow Jesus without even knowing his plan. But He will honor your obedience and your faith on his timing.
1 Samuel 15:22 But Samuel replied: “Does the Lord delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the Lord? To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams.
1 Samuel 2:30 Those who honor me I will honor, but those who despise me will be disdained.
For My Soul Sistas 